The last year has brought about some significant challenges for pretty much every single person in the entire world. And without minimizing the struggles of others, I feel like the parents of young children have been impacted in very unique and challenging ways.
We’re all familiar with the old adage, “It takes a village to raise a child,” and even though the makeup of that village has changed significantly over the years, it’s still as true as it ever was. Previously, that village might have been made up mostly of your neighbors and relatives, but play groups, daycares, dance classes, soccer leagues, and other organized forms of social interaction have taken their place for a lot of parents. That all took a hit in the last year.
This pandemic has presented the parents of young children with several obstacles to overcome, with one of them being my favorite thing. Sleep. It was a tough winter coming up with activities to keep our kids active. Especially without friends, sports, and for some people, even school.
I like to think I've got a decent amount of energy for a 37 year old mom of two kids, but there’s no way I can keep up with my little ones on a physical level to the degree that another child can. Kids have so much energy, and the best way for them to burn it off, in my opinion, is by playing with other kids.
For many people, life is started to look more "back to normal" than it has in over a year, and hopefully you are able to get back to play dates, parks and sports soon enough.
So what does that have to do with their sleep?
It’s a commonly-held belief that getting a lot of physical activity helps people sleep well at night, and evidence certainly supports that theory. A 2009 study from the Department of Pediatrics at the University of Auckland found that every hour of sedentary activity during the day resulted in an average of 3.1 minutes more in sleep latency, or in not sciencey terms, the time it took the child to fall asleep after going to bed. Higher rates of activity resulted in less sleep latency, but the formula they used to come up with the times is a little trickier to follow. (—1.2 minutes per 102 movement count per minute, p = 0.05, for you scientific types out there.)
Those numbers might not seem astounding, exactly, but over a few nights, this can actually result in a bit of a vicious cycle. Your child isn’t getting a lot of exercise during the day, so they have a slightly harder time falling asleep at night. That leaves them feeling a little lethargic the next day, which leads to even less activity, which leads to even less sleep. You can see how this can start to spiral out of control pretty quickly.
Another commonly-held belief is that once we get really tired, we tend to fall asleep earlier to
compensate, but a lot of people are surprised to learn that overtiredness actually has the opposite effect. Our brains fire up our cortisol production in an attempt to provide energy for whatever emergency we’re staying awake for, making it even more difficult to fall asleep.
So with all of that in mind, here are a few suggestions for some fun activities you can engage in with your child.
My personal favorite, and the favorite of a lot of kids as well. Throw on a YouTube video of a kids’ Zumba routine and let your little one go to town. Or, just blast some music and free dance it out. "I regret dancing in the living room with my kids" said no one, ever.
When it comes to socially distanced outdoor exercise, you can’t do much better than the good old fashioned bike ride. Kids have to pedal faster and harder than adults to keep up the same pace, so you can hopefully burn off their energy around the same time you’ve hit your limit. Plus the changing scenery will help keep both of your minds off the fact that you’re exercising.
Oh yeah, kids can absolutely do yoga, and a lot of them actually love it! They’re naturally flexible so they’re able to get into a lot of poses their parents can’t which is always a thrill for them. Counting how long they can hold the poses gives them a goal to work towards, and practicing mindfulness and serenity is something that’s beneficial for people of any age. Check out Cosmic Kids Yoga for some really exceptional videos. The instructor incorporates popular kids stories into her routines and, well, it’s pretty great.
Wii Sports/Wii Fit
This one requires a bit of an investment, and I know that some parents think that video games and exercise are polar opposites, but the Nintendo Wii is a different beast. The sports games actually involve a significant amount of movement, and when it comes to keeping kids engaged and wanting more this feels like fun and not exercise. You can get a refurbished one for a little over $200, including the Wii Sports game, which if you think about how much they’re likely to use it, is a pretty good deal.
There's so many other simple activities that are a part of summer: running through sprinklers, tag, playgrounds, even going for a walk. A commitment to an active lifestyle is something kids learn from their parents, and the benefits it will have to their sleep, mood, and overall well-being are learned behaviors that will last a lifetime.
I always recommend that my clients aim to get their kids physical activity for 30 minutes twice a day, mid morning and mid afternoon.